Break-ups can hurt beyond description but it’s not the end of the world still. Sadly, a lot of people don’t understand that. They tend to over react or act out of context. Some common break-up mistakes are discussed below to help us look out for them and avoid making them or being a victim.
They refuse to accept what has happened and won’t allow the other person any breathing space after ending it. Being broken up with can feel like your world has been shattered – especially if it’s unexpected. The temptation is to do anything in your power to change your ex’s mind but this is where ‘crazy ex’ syndrome can kick in. You need to respect their decision and give yourself (and them) time and space to think rationally about what’s happened and adjust.
They try and ‘get back’ at them by posting passive aggressive updates on social media. Aside from it usually being very obvious what you are doing, using social media in this way only ends up hurting you more as it keeps you focused on your ex and less on what matters now – you, moving forwards. So instead, place your attention on doing what you can to try and genuinely have a good time in the real world – not just saying you are in the hope that your ex will see it on Facebook.
They won’t leave their ex alone and try and beg them to change their mind. If you make it your long term mission to keep hounding your ex, this will only further cement their decision in their minds that breaking up was the right thing to do. It might be incredibly tough but the only way to keep your dignity intact and be able to heal from the break-up, is to cut off that communication and bring the focus back to yourself.
They immediately date other people to try and show their ex what they’re missing. Similar to the rebound relationship in the other example, this never feels good; particularly when you are doing this for the sole benefit of your ex. You don’t want to end up being the person bringing ‘ex issues’ into every new relationship or interaction.
They go to where they know their ex hangs out in the hope of casually ‘bumping into them’. Again, you will only be regarded as the ‘crazy ex’ if you keep finding opportunities to be in the same vicinity as your ex.
Staying in touch with the family. They maintain too much communication with their ex’s friends and family. Your ex could think you are using their friends and family as a way of keeping that connection, which can be incredibly annoying and sometimes quite awkward.