Love is lovely especially when the partners and their families are in good health because as they say, health is wealth. Ironically, some lovers still go ahead to make certain decisions that can mar their relationship more than making it with the belief that love conquers all. I totally disagree, I think there’s an extent to which love can get to. I can do a thousand and one things for love but there is one thing I wouldn’t do, the thing which inspired this write up. I wouldn’t marry a partner who is AS if I’m AS too. I’m not going to bore us with any medical information but we all know that there are three basic genotypes-AA, AS, and SS (there are some more but let’s focus on this).
We also know that AA is the boss of the genotypes while AS is selective but SS is the most fragile, people with the SS genotype are referred to as Sicklers. Two people with the AS genotype are not advised to get married except it’s a same sex marriage or the couple doesn’t have plans on having children of their own. This is because the probability of both having a child with the SS genotype is way higher than having a child with other genotypes. As clear as this fact is, it still saddens my heart that some couples in the name of love, both fully aware of their genotype status still go ahead to get married with the intention of having kids.
Personally, I believe that being fully aware of one’s genotype status being AS and that of one’s partner being AS is enough to guide one towards the future of such relationship. Getting married to that partner with both eyes open is a risk I would never advise anyone to take. It is just a step towards bringing in a child to life to suffer. I know people who I’ve lost because their parents didn’t care about the outcome or maybe they didn’t know their genotype but it’s still sad anyway.
A lot of people lose friends and loved ones and still go ahead to make the same mistake. The truth about it is that in the face of constant crisis as a result of a one’s child being of the sickle cell genotype, love is the last thing longed for. All the parents would want is the survival of the child, it’s all about the child in those kind of families. Where is the time to actually think about the love that got you into the marriage in the first place? A life is at stake and the next thing you want is being all lovely? Of course not! I’m not saying there would be no love, but most of the time, it would be love for the child as a result of the child’s health condition.
I’m not going to dispute the fact that people die with or without belonging to the sickle cell genotype and I’m not also going to deny the fact that some people never get frustrated in life to the extent of it affecting their love life but everything has a limit. Sometimes you see people feel so much pain and you just wish they should die so the pain would end (if it is an incurable ailment). Again, some people do everything “by God’s grace” including taking some decisions. Yes, God heals but why get sick on purpose? Are we not supposed to take conscious steps towards having a better life and creating a much better one for those around us and even the generation to come? These steps include making sacrifices as far as I’m concerned because you cannot get a prize without paying a price.
Speaking of sacrifices, there’s one thing that can be done when it has to do with falling in love. When you begin to like someone ‘specially’, I’d suggest that you ask that person for his or her genotype to determine how deep you want to fall in love. However, if you’re AA, you might not need to ask especially if your partner doesn’t fall sick to the extent that you might be feeling that he or she might be a sickler. Once every one of us can do that, the chances of bringing a child into the world to suffer would be reduced to the lowest minimum. People who are even in their best health conditions still fall sick, how much more a sickler? Let’s put the genotype factor into consideration when falling in love so as not to endanger someone else’s life in the name of love or in the name of God. It would also save time, stress, money, heartbreak and energy.