At some point in our lives, we lose someone precious to us, either a friend or family member and most times, we find it difficult to handle. It is very important for us to work on it so it won’t begin to affect other areas of our lives negatively. We find it even more difficult to get over but to be very honest, we might never get over it but we can definitely handle it better with some of the steps listed below;
Accept it. What has happened has happened regardless of how you feel about it or what you feel you could have done to change the situation. You need to come to the realisation that it’s already a done deed. Once your mind has been able to accept it, healing will be less complicated.
Let out your pain. Bottling up all your pain isn’t advisable as it will end up causing more harm than good. Cry if you can or let out your pain in any other way you can. Just try not to hurt yourself or others while letting out your pain. You don’t need to cause more grieve to get over your grief.
Get help. This is a crucial time for you so the less time you spend alone trying to get over your loss, the better. Don’t shut people out, well-meaning people that is. Get friends and loved ones to be around you, people who understand your pain and are willing to be with you all the way through your healing. Spend time with them, especially the ones that can make you laugh, laughter might just be the best medicine for you.
Have no regrets. Is it something you should have said or done before their death? It doesn’t matter anymore now that you no longer have the chance to do or undo it. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Instead, learn from it and move on. Try to make changes in your other relationships as you don’t know how long anyone would be around for.
Keep things that remind you of them. That dog, sweater, photo album or any other thing that will constantly remind you of them will also help you realise that though they’re gone, their presence is still felt.