I’m very sure some of you would just look at this topic and say there’s no question about this, money first then love. I’d agree with you in a way and I’d also agree with those who think otherwise (they might be very few though) but yea, we all have our reasons.
Money Hmmm, who doesn’t like money? The more we get, the more we want, we can never have enough. The desire to get rich and richer becomes more intense as the money increases. I don’t know if it happens to anyone else but sometimes when I have money, I don’t even feel hungry. Even when I do, I just smile in a the-money-is-there-so-let’s-chill-a-bit way.
Love, love, love, love…There’s something about that word I just can’t explain. The definition of love differs because we all subscribe to different school of thoughts hence there’s no general definition I would use. According to one of the definitions I found on the Internet, “Love is a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes that ranges from interpersonal affection (“I love my mother”) to pleasure (“I loved that meal”). It can refer to an emotion of a strong attraction and personal attachment.” I’m sure some people won’t even agree with this definition as we all think differently.
To some people, love is care while to some, love is being happy for and with others, to some; love is giving and by giving, anything at all while some don’t even believe in love at all and some people’s definition is not even written here. Of all the definitions here, I’m going to focus on the one that says “love is giving” and I’m going to lay emphasis on money being a gift.
Personally, I believe that love should involve some sort of giving but not all forms of giving has love as it’s motive and I’ll tell you why. It takes some sort of strong emotion for someone to give you something he or she owns except for people who just have a flare for giving or those who give just for show off. The fact that even the bible made us understand that it’s possible to give out the whole world without having love explains it all.
Having known that not all giving has love as its motive, let’s now look at the relationship between love and money. Every romantic relationship needs money at some point to spice up the relationship. Going on dates and other form of outings, steady communication, looking good for yourself and your partner all require money so we can see that money cannot be ruled out of any relationship. This is not to mean that you should save up money just because you want to be in a relationship, start with what you have and your partner should be able to deal. For the ladies, money is not everything. Not all ladies date for money but even the ones that don’t usually don’t want someone who is “un-rich”, I don’t want to use the word poor. Due to the increase in hustle by both male and females these days, guys automatically believe that most ladies are after money which is why some guys when woo-ing tend to say or imply things like “money is not your problem, I have the world to give you if you just say yes”. That is why some ladies will almost want to see a guy’s bank statement before they can date him. I won’t blame any of the two though because only you knows where the shoe hurts. (we all know our motives behind being in a relationship). Besides, some people want both the love and the money. Money makes the love sweet, doesn’t necessarily have to be a substantial amount of money but at least something to spice up the relationship.
In conclusion, love and money work hand-in-hand, if you don’t have money, you can still love as long as you find someone who’ll love you the way you are. If you don’t have love and you have money, you’ll find someone who’s willing to spend your money with you. If you have none, message me so we can work on a solution and if you have both, congratulations, because your love life will be wonderful (not without its own challenges though) as long as it’s true love.