Usually, when you ask people if they have any regrets, most people diplomatically reply by saying they don’t have regrets, rather they learn from every situation no matter how terrible it was but then, haven’t you ever looked back at some decisions you made and felt you should have done better? I know we’ve moved on but then, a reflection of these things won’t be a bad idea once in a while so we can know where we erred and how well we’ve improved over the years. I don’t want to believe there’s anyone who hasn’t been in some sort of relationship at some point in their lives though not everyone might have had an entirely bad experience but there must have been something, you get the point yeah?
Apart from the aforementioned reasons, there are other deep reasons that cause people to regret being with someone they used to love. Cases of infidelity especially if the act was committed with one’s close friend or family can lead to the victim regretting having a relationship with such partner. Some other people regret being ‘used’ either emotionally, financially or physically by someone they thought was in love with them. To some people, it’s not about how much they invested, it’s about the person everything was done for who turned out to be not who they thought they were or who they expected them to be. So it’s a matter of wasted time, energy, money, emotions etc. Though I read somewhere where it was written that you shouldn’t regret any decisions made because at the time it happened, you were certain it was what you wanted but this is just us talking yeah?
I guess you’re probably thinking about that guy or girl who wasn’t totally a flop throughout the relationship but then it didn’t work out for some reason and it most likely didn’t hurt much because you both understood that it was best for the relationship to end, I wouldn’t call that kind of ending a regrettable one (depends on why they had to part though). But then, there are just some exceptional cases when you feel the relationship was a total waste of time and that’s where the regret comes in. Cases where you felt you weren’t respected enough, loved enough, everything enough, you know the drill but even in our reflections; let’s not forget that there’s a reason why it’s in the past and it should remain there. Regardless of whatever we think we should have done differently, we need to move on and take the lessons into our present or future relationships. That would be proof that we have truly learned from our past experiences.