Why did I get married? I bet we’re thinking about Tyler Perry’s movie now but really why did you get married? Or rather, why do you want to get married? No, don’t tell me. It’s not surprising to hear that some people don’t get married for money or love (a common factor that pushes most to marriage), some actually get married to shut the mouth of the society, to join the #marriedgang, and even to complete their list of achievements, which marriage probably tops.
I’ve also come to understand that marriage while overrated is a beautiful thing. What I tell people is whatever decision you have come up with- whether to stay married on single, make sure you chose to be single by choice and not because you are nursing heartbreak, pain or you have just not found the right person. Make sure it’s what you genuinely want. It’s okay not to want to be married. A lot of married people are unhappy and are staying married because the society and their family requires it. And there are lots of happily single people- who are genuinely happy.
Whatever your choice boils down, make sure it’s really your choice and not for lack of finding the right companion or nursing long standing hatred for the opposite sex.
Marriage is not overrated
Marriage is not a happily ever after
Marriage isn’t for everyone
Marriage is not a do or die affair
Marriage is not a happiness validation centre. If you are not happy as a single person, marriage will not make you happy, well, maybe for a very short while.
Everybody however needs someone. Growing up can be lonely. The older you get, the more you understand the power of a beautiful companionship and family. This is why we tend to appreciate our parents as we get older. You just get to understand that there are some journeys you can’t embark on alone and if you have to embark on it, let your partner be worth it.